A reader asked for my advice.....

My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months. Everything was magical in the beginning but now it has changed a bit. Things are not as exciting and we don't spend as much time together... this makes me wonder if this is it for me... or am I missing out on something... some how I am longing for something more. I think things may have changed when we started living together.. he noticed that I don't cook or clean and that may have been a turn off for him. We are both great people but I don't know if we are meant for each other.

 

Reply:

Hey thanks for sending me this and allowing me into your life. :)  First of all you can't just jump ship at the first sign of trouble. You and your boyfriend need to sit down and have a long talk about the way that things are going and where they are going. If you don't cook and clean then why not start? Let him see that you are making an effort. One night a week you guys should have a date night. You don't necessarily have to go out just spend time together. You have to continue to get to know each other because you are constantly growing. Think about those things that caused you to fall in love with him in the first place and maybe it will rekindle some old feelings. And just so you know, all relationships seem magical in the beginning. They're supposed to! All that wooing is what makes dating so much fun.  At the start of the relationship everyone puts their best foot forward. What you did to get him you need to keep doing to keep him and he should be doing the same.  Are you willing to fight for your relationship? If you are wondering if you are missing out on something then that's a major issue. Before you let your mind wonder into of all kinds of thoughts that you shouldn't be having, sit down and have a talk with your boyfriend. I pray that it all works out for the better.